Welcome to episode nr 3 of The Coffee Journeys Show: The power of words. No more bad weather!
In this episode, Piotr discusses how language can shape our behaviour and decisions. He talks about the universal habit of complaining about the weather and how it reflects our unconscious behaviour patterns.
Piotr shares a story from the book “Tools of Titans” by Tim Ferriss, where Josh Waitzkin changed his walking routine and language to teach his son internal control. Piotr then shares his experience walking on a cold and rainy day with his family, inspired by Josh and Jack’s story.
He challenges listeners to think about their language and how it can limit their behaviour and decisions, urging them to break free from external conditions and make decisions based on internal control.
Chapters
00:01:02 -> Language Matters 🗣️
00:01:22 -> Bad Mondays? 😧
00:01:46 -> Let’s Complain! 😡
00:02:28 -> What Patterns You Repeat? 📐
00:02:57 -> Droidy 🦾
00:03:10 -> Joshua Waitzkin ♟️
00:03:40 -> Tools Of Titans Book 📕
00:04:18 -> Internalisation 🌈
00:05:02 -> Josh Experiment ☔️
00:05:35 -> My Story About “bad” Weather Walk 🌧️
00:07:24 -> My Challange For You! 🫵
00:07:38 -> Conclusions 🎓
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Transcript
In this episode, we discuss the importance of the language we use and how it can shape our behavior and decisions. We dive into the idea of internalization and how we often unconsciously adopt patterns and behaviors. We also explore how complaining about the weather is a universal habit and how we make decisions based on external conditions that we have no control over.
Bad Mondays?
Today is Monday, and in the UK, children are returning to school after an extended break for the first time in about two weeks. Consequently, the parents of these children are also seeing each other for the first time in a long time. So, how can we start conversations on days like this? Well, it usually starts with the weather. Have you ever noticed that on Monday mornings, it’s so easy to start a conversation with someone by talking about the weather, and more often than not, it’s about complaining about it? We all complain about the weather.
What Patterns Do You Repeat?
This example of complaining about the weather on Mondays is just one example of how we often unconsciously replicate patterns of behavior. It’s not only about complaining about the weather. It’s about how we make our decisions based on external conditions that we have no control over.
Meet Droidy
Before we continue, I would like to introduce, or rather re-introduce you to my lovely assistant, Droidy. Droidella McElectron is a synthetically generated voice assistant. You can call her Droidy.
Josh Waitzkin
Josh Waitzkin is an American chess player, martial arts competitor, and author. He was the subject of the book and film Searching for Bobby Fischer, which was based on his early life as a chess prodigy. Waitzkin has also trained in martial arts and has written books on his experiences and strategies for achieving success in competitive settings.
Tools of Titans Book
Tools of Titans is a non-fiction book by Tim Ferriss that features interviews and insights from some of the most successful and influential people in various fields, including business, fasting, sports, and entertainment. The book covers a wide range of topics, including productivity, health, and personal development. It’s aimed to provide readers with practical and actionable advice, as well as inspiration and insights, to help them achieve their own goals and aspirations.
Internalisation
And this is where the idea of internalization comes in. In the book Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss, there is a story about how Josh Waitzkin changed his walking routine and the language he and his son Jack used. He realized that when it was raining, people would say, “it’s bad weather, I’m not going out for a walk.” And when it wasn’t raining, they would say, “okay, it’s fine, weather is good, we can go out.” This means that we are externally dependent on ideal conditions to be able to have a good time, and Josh wanted to teach his son, Jack, to have internal control and not rely on external conditions.
Josh Experiment
So he and Jack never missed a single storm, rain, or snow to go out. He made this experiment to go for a walk on every single day for one year. They developed their language based on how beautiful it is. And now, when it’s a rainy day, Jack says, “look dad, it’s such a beautiful rainy day,” and they go out and play outside.
My Story About “Bad” Weather Walk
This experiment might sound too good to be true, but it’s entirely possible to change our language and internalize positive thinking. For example, I had a similar experience with my family during a long break. We decided to spend some quality time reading books and going for walks. One day, my son suggested going for a walk in the rain, and despite my initial reluctance, we went out and had a fantastic time.
Conclusions
In conclusion, language matters, and the words we use can shape our behavior and decisions. We often unconsciously adopt patterns and behaviors, and it’s essential to do this carefully. By internalizing positive thinking and changing our language, we can have more control over our lives and not rely on external conditions for our happiness. So, the next time it’s raining, try going for a walk and see the beauty in the rain.
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